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09 June 2014 @ 08:36 pm
Seven years together!  

As of today, softlykarou and I have been married for seven years! And on the balance it's been pretty fantastic. I'm going to quote what I said on Facebook about it because I liked it:
I'm supposed to put in something about it seems like yesterday and blah blah blah, but it doesn't, really. Time has passed--a lot of it, relatively--and we're better for it. Part of our wedding vows were to help each other grow into the person we want to be, and my wife has done a lot to help me toward that goal, and if there's a long way for me to go still, that is no reflection on the effort she has expended, but only on my ability to put it into action.

Seven years! That means we beat the odds, but I always knew that was going to happen. I'm usually a pessimist who assumes the worst, but on this I had no doubt.

I love you, dear! Here's to seven times seven years more. 💛💙💜💚❤️💗💞

בָּרוּךְ אַתָּה יְיָ אֱלֹהֵֽינוּ מֶֽלֶךְ הָעוֹלָם שֶׁהֶחֱיָנוּ וְקִיְּמָנוּ וְהִגִּיעָנוּ לזְּמַן הַזֶּה
The bit at the end in Hebrew is the Shehecheyanu, the blessing for doing new things or doing things for the first time. I think reaching seven years of marriage counts.

And the hearts are a bit odd. Well, that’s the problem with translating emoji to Unicode.

softlykarou are pretty iconoclastic when it comes to relationship customs. We don't get each other presents for birthdays or holidays, we celebrate Valentine Day's and White Day instead of Valentine's Day, and at most, we'll go out for dinner as a celebration. So tonight, we went for hamburgers with friends. Sure, $6.50 for fried pickles is ludicrous, but the burgers were fantastic. And the buns are made at Red Hen Bakery, where we get pretty much all our bread. 11/10 would nom again. Just...hopefully with a different waiter who didn't constantly forget our requests.

Oh, speaking of our vows, there are a lot of people we've met who haven't heard them, and since we wrote them ourselves and I still have them, I'll repeat them here:
Me: softlykarou, today I take you as my wife and companion. I promise to share your happiness and be with you in your sadness. To always be open and honest with you, and to help you grow and become the person you want to be. And though our vows are short, they are merely a summary of all the promises we have already made to each other, over dinner and on walks, and as we gazed into each others’ eyes.

softlykarou: dorchadas, you have been my best friend, accomplice, confidant, and my greatest comfort. I promise to share your happiness and be with you in your sadness. To always be open and honest with you, and to help you grow and become the person you want to be. And though we will have our differences, they will never be so wide that we cannot hold our hands across them.
I've heard it said that the best thing for an introvert is to have someone you can be alone with. And as I sit here, writing this blog post and playing Fall from Heaven while softlykarou checks Facebook on the couch behind me and we both listen to our favorite podcast, I'm reminded again of how true that is.

So yay to us, and yay to many more long years of marriage!
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marianlhmarianlh on June 10th, 2014 01:53 am (UTC)
dorchadasdorchadas on June 11th, 2014 01:17 am (UTC)
Thank you!
q99q99 on June 10th, 2014 02:35 am (UTC)
Congratulations! Only 4 years til the next prime milestone.
dorchadasdorchadas on June 11th, 2014 01:21 am (UTC)
Thank you!

I'll probably enjoy nine years too, as the next mystically significant number. But I guess eight is significant in Discworld, and I could probably find correspondences for everything else if I looked hard enough. :p
Khandri, the Newtype Wannabe: Sailor Moon - Usagi and Mamorukhandreia on June 10th, 2014 10:04 pm (UTC)
Congrats to both of you! Here's to many, many more years together. :)
dorchadasdorchadas on June 11th, 2014 01:22 am (UTC)
Thank you! Hopefully I'll be making these posts for many more years to come. (^_^)
Genamoonwych on June 14th, 2014 03:54 pm (UTC)
I'm a little late, but Congratulations to you both!
dorchadasdorchadas on June 15th, 2014 03:14 pm (UTC)
Thank you!